You will strike out. You will get out. You will make errors. You will lose.

These are a part of baseball. Failure is a part of sports and a part of life. No failure means no challenge.

Failure is an opportunity to improve. Will you take the challenge?

Failure is an opportunity to learn. Will you repeat it?

Far too often, we have an entirely negative view of failure. We don’t see it as a natural course of competition and life. If you never experience it, you’re not taking risks. You’re avoiding growth.

Here are some things to talk about when it comes to the subject of failure…

1. What Did You Learn?

What did you learn from that loss? From that strikeout? From that play? It wasn’t merely “something bad that happened to us.” It was a lesson that we can’t ignore.

What did the pitcher do that led to your strikeout? Were you off balance? Were you on time? Were you expecting something different?

What did the umpire do? Is his zone higher than expected? Is it wide? Is it inconsistent?

What did that team do? Why did they win? Were they aggressive on the bases? Did they do something that caught you by surprise?

If you aren’t asking yourself these questions after failure, you’re missing a valuable opportunity.

2. What Will You Do Differently Next Time?

You learned from what happened. Now what? We want to avoid the same result. We’ll be prepared for it next time. We’ll adjust.

If the pitcher caught you with an offspeed pitch, you’ll be ready for it next time.

If the umpire has a wide zone, you’ll expand your zone with two strikes next time.

If the team ran trick plays, you’ll be ready for it and practice ways to defend it next time.

If we don’t do anything different, we can’t expect different results. The same failure will repeat.

3. Your Experience Will Help You Next Time

Failure is experience. Experience is what leads to growth. Each failure gives you a little story that you learned from in the back of your mind. You are prepared for everything because you’ve been through it all.

If you’ve rarely failed, there are more situations that you won’t be prepared for.

Experience isn’t about having the most success. Experience is about being through the most situations you can learn from to get better.

4. Failure Makes You Hungrier

Failure hurts. We don’t like striking out, making errors, or losing. But that hurt is motivation.

If you’ve only succeeded, you take that success for granted.

When you’ve been through a painful loss or other failure, it’s a feeling you don’t want to experience again.

You become hungrier and more motivated.

5. Failure Highlights Weaknesses

Your team is 100-0. You’ve never lost. Every player is hitting 1.000. None of your players has made a mistake.

What do you need to work on? I have no idea.

That undefeated team isn’t perfect, but you don’t notice because they haven’t lost. Those hitters can improve, but no one sees it because they’ve yet to be retired.

Failure brings focus to weaknesses. This is a good thing.

Thanks to failure, we know that we aren’t perfect. We know specifically what it is we need to work on. We can’t avoid it.

6. Get Pushed to Your Limits

Welcome challenges. You need to find your limits.

Play the team that seems unbeatable and see how you do.

Face the pitcher who seems unhittable and give him all that you have.

When you get pushed to your limits, you find out what you are truly capable of. You also uncover weaknesses you may not have otherwise noticed.

Pushing yourself to your limits is how you uncover your optimal performance.

7. Unchallenged Success is Unproductive

When everything’s easy, it’s a mirage. You think you’re better than you are. You appear to have no weakness.

Welcome challenges and the potential failure it brings.

If you’re unchallenged, don’t change your firey approach. Continue to push yourself to be better. Uncover weaknesses and things you could have done better even when the result was positive.

8. Failure Can Be Misleading, Too

Be careful. Not every failure highlights a weakness.

Sometimes you do everything right and get out. You have a good approach, a good swing, hit the ball hard and the ball finds a glove. It doesn’t mean you need to change something.

Sometimes you do everything right on a play and you can’t retire the batter. You were well-positioned, attack the ball, make a strong throw, and he beats it out. It doesn’t mean you need to change something.

Sometimes you make a great pitch and the batter hits a home run. Tip your cap.

Things happen. Know how to differentiate failure when you did everything right from failure when you could have done something differently. Otherwise, you’ll tweak things that don’t need to be tweaked.

9. Embrace the Role of Failure in Progress

Don’t feel sorry for yourself when you fail. Embrace the experience as an opportunity to learn.

Don’t fall into depression after a difficult loss. Embrace what was learned from it and how it can make you better next time.

Every failure is a brick in the wall towards progress as long as you handle it productively. Keep building.

Your Turn

How does your team deal with failure? What are your experiences?

Let me know in the comments below!

If you’re always on time, you’ll be one of the coach’s best friends. He’ll appreciate you.

The Spiders families are really good about this. But I’ve learned it’s something that isn’t automatically understood. The coach needs to establish very clear expectations about what arriving “on time” means.

Why does arriving on time matter? And why should you ultimately arrive early?

Defining “On Time”

We start pre-game warmups an hour prior to game time. So, being on time means that we need each player on the field ready to start warmups at that time.

That doesn’t mean pulling into the parking lot an hour before the game.

It doesn’t mean the player arriving at the field an hour before the game.

Sometimes it’s a long walk from the parking lot. Players often arrive with slides on. They’ll need to put their cleats on and put their bag away. They’ll need to do these things before starting warmups.

Starting Warmups Together as a Team

I value starting our warmups together, on time, as a team. We’ll have some pre-game communications. How are we approaching this game differently? What do the players need to know? Who is playing where? Who is pitching and who is catching?

After those communications, the players start their warmups.

If you missed the pre-game communications, you may be going into the game without valuable information.

If you start pre-game warmups late, you’ll need to cut something short. Fewer stretches could mean a greater likelihood for injury. Fewer reps could lead to a lack of readiness.

If you’re late, you’ll be rushed. And it’s not a good way to start the day.

Ultimately, it sets a really bad tone. I want to start with everyone. But if you aren’t here yet, we need to get going.

Pitchers and Catchers

Pitchers and catchers have a different routine than the rest of the team. They need to get through warmups so that the catcher can gear up and the pitcher can get in some warmup pitches.

If the pitcher or catcher is late, it throws off this preparation.

Prepare for the Unexpected

If you leave in order to arrive on time, something is bound to go wrong. Expect it. Stuff happens.

Your son may get ready late. Maybe he can’t find his jersey. Maybe he leaves his bat in the garage, and you have to turn back around and go get it.

You’ll run into traffic at the worst possible time. Or the GPS will lead you to the wrong location.

All of these things will happen at some point. I guarantee it.

If you prepare for the unexpected, you build in some buffer time. If you prepare to arrive 15 minutes (or even more) early, any delay is no big deal.

One time this past season, I hit some insanely bad traffic. Just awful. It was the only time I arrived late. But, guess what? Every player beat me there. As a result, I couldn’t blame the traffic. I needed to plan better.

Arrive Early

Really just adding this for emphasis. I think it’s clear now that it’s best to arrive early. You’ll be less stressed, less rushed, and more prepared in the event something inevitably delays you.

Your son will also be in a much better frame of mind if he arrives early as opposed to being stressed out about arriving after warmups began.

Enforcing On-Time Arrival

Whether or not the coach does anything to enforce on-time arrival is up to each individual coach. It also may depend upon how bad things get.

If your planned starting pitcher or catcher arrive late, you may consider starting someone else. This isn’t even necessarily as a punishment, but understanding that the routine is different for those positions.

You may also set your first inning bench players based on who arrived late. If you don’t start warmups with the team on time, you will be the first to sit the bench.

And you may even put the late arrivers at the bottom of the lineup. This may even be done out of necessity if a player is arriving especially late.

It’s all up to the coach. Personally, it’s a tough topic because I spend a great deal of time planning out lineups and defensive positions for every inning of every game. I really don’t want to throw that out the window.

So for me, the question is first about whether it’s become a problem. If it does, then we need to start enforcing on-time arrival. But you can’t pick and choose when to do this. You need to be consistent.

Something I’ve done in the past is once late arrival begins to become an issue, I start moving the arrival time earlier. So, instead of a 60-minute pre-game arrival, I use 70 minutes.

There Are Exceptions

This can be a dicey subject. Do we treat all late arrivals equally? What about league games during the week when school is in session? Do we punish those who live a far distance away who can’t arrive on time?

Personally, I provide far more latitude for these weekday games during the school year. I know that it’s difficult to get everyone to the field on time, no matter what you do.

You may choose to give every player a single pass for being late, within reason.

Your Turn

What does your team do to enforce on-time arrival?

Let me know in the comments below!

It was the first inning of a fall game. We were far from evenly matched, which has been a bit uncomfortable all season long. We’re expecting to be a majors team next season, and the teams in our fall league were all AA. The results reflected it.

It wasn’t all bad. It gave us the opportunity to pitch kids who didn’t normally pitch. We played kids at positions that they may not normally play. We kept it loose while balancing with good intensity.

The fact that this first inning was getting out of hand was no big surprise. We were hitting rockets. The few times we hit catchable balls, the fielders weren’t making the plays.

This wasn’t new. But there was something that bothered me.

After an outfielder failed to throw a ball he fielded promptly, resulting in an extra base, the coach shouted at him and then sent a replacement into his spot.

A few plays later, an outfielder didn’t catch a ball. Same reaction. A bench player trotted onto the field, replacing that player.

He embarrassed these players to make a point.

This wasn’t a matter of kids being lazy, not focusing, or underperforming. The coach, I’m sure, would disagree. Which is why these moves were made.

But the results weren’t all that surprising. They were playing at the level that was expected (regardless of what the coach may say). They were being intimidated and punished for playing at their ability level.

Does this approach help? Did the players who were benched during the inning learn an important lesson? Would they now be less likely to make the same mistakes next time? And would the replacements be likely to perform at a higher level?

I think you know what I think. It doesn’t help. This coach was using fear and intimidation to get results from kids who were simply performing the way that was expected based on their training and ability level.

I’ve coached for more than a dozen years, and I don’t believe I’ve ever replaced a player in the field during an inning for making a mistake. But I may have had more of that coaching style in me at one time than I’d like to admit. I eventually realized it wasn’t effective.

Coaching Through Fear and Intimidation

What do I mean?

Coaching through fear and intimidation means the coach spends much of his time screaming at his players. Not cheering them on. Ridiculing them. Punishing them for mistakes.

He’s a bad communicator. He’s unable to get his point across. The performance of his players is embarrassing him. He’s angry.

You must know that you made a mistake. Everyone must know that you made a mistake. Everyone must know that the coach taught you differently. It can’t be the coach’s fault.

You won’t make that mistake again. If you do, you’re going to get yelled at. You’re going to be removed from the game. You’re going to be embarrassed in front of your teammates and family.

You may not know exactly how you need to do things differently. You just know that you have to execute next time. Try harder to field the ball, make a good throw, or get a hit.

It Doesn’t Work

Look, I realize that this is still a popular approach. Some coaches continue to operate using fear and intimidation as a motivator. Some parents swear by it. And some kids even thrive off of it.

But it doesn’t need to be your approach.

It’s partly a different era regarding what is acceptable and what isn’t. For me, it’s mostly understanding the most productive way to get the most out of my players.

This isn’t about holding hands, singing Kumbayah, and giving everyone a trophy. I’m as competitive as the next loud, angry coach. I expect as much if not more out of my players as anyone else.

There are different approaches to teaching baseball and life while getting the most out of your players. My approach has certainly evolved over the years.

I’ve always been intense and competitive. But in the early days, I was much louder. Much harsher. I’d focus much more on the negative than the positive.

I guarantee some players would say that they feared me at times. Or that I attempted to intimidate them to get results.

Those teams succeeded. I didn’t understand it then, but it wasn’t the intimidation that got results. It was the coaching. Helping them understand the game. Helping them love the game. Teaching them something new.

The theatrics weren’t what led to the results. If anything, they limited the results that we got.

The Performance is a Reflection of Your Instruction

Most anger and fear-based coaching come from a place of vulnerability. These coaches are embarrassed. They are embarrassed because, deep down, they know the truth.

The team is playing this way because that’s how they have been trained, prepared, or taught.

Coaches don’t want to admit that. But it’s true.

Your players won’t be perfect. They will make mistakes. But the rate at which they make mistakes is a reflection of their training. Their performance is a direct reflection of you.

Look, I know there are many factors involved. You get kids at different experience levels. Some learn faster than others. But ultimately, anger is the wrong reaction. They’re doing what you taught them to do.

That doesn’t mean they’ll always play at the level they’re capable of playing. But, to a point, they are what they are and that’s a reflection of you.

Good and bad.

Balancing Positivity and Negativity

Baseball is a mental game. Confidence is extremely important. You can’t ignore the negative, but there needs to be a good balance.

A player did something wrong. You could yell at them, but guess what? They know they did something wrong because they got a bad result.

What could they have done differently? Did they do what has been taught? Why didn’t they do it correctly? Help them through the thought process.

When teaching, the person being taught will be much more receptive if you balance negative with positive.

“I really like when you did [this]. It showed you were [focused, paying attention, well prepared].”

“But then you did [this]. What was your thought process behind that?”

After they explain what they were thinking, help them understand the proper approach. If possible, allow them to discover the proper approach themselves.

After a difficult game, always try to find some positive things to highlight. No matter what you think, there is something that was done well. Start there. Then cover the negative.

Positivity Without Purpose

You can actually be too positive. We’ve all seen it.

The batter swings at a pitch over his head and misses.

Third base coach claps his hands. “Good swing, Billy!”

No. No, it wasn’t.

If you’re always positive and never point out things that need to be corrected, or if you say something was correct that wasn’t, you are only reinforcing bad habits. And the positivity all becomes noise.

You can correct players without intimidation, but they need to be corrected. Sometimes it’s just a matter of a look. Or maybe it’s simply reinforcing what we want.

Instead of saying it was a good swing when you know it wasn’t, provide basic correction.

First wait to get the player’s reaction. He probably knows that it was a bad pitch. When you realize you’re on the same page, say, “Okay. You’re going to be okay. Turn the page. Deep breath. Nothing over your hands, right?”

And move on.

How to Treat Physical Errors

Physical errors are things like…

• Misplaying a ball in the field
• Making a bad throw
• Striking out
• Having a bad swing or approach at the plate
• Walking batters
• Making a bad pitch

These are physical errors. In each case, the player didn’t want this result. They wanted to make the play. They wanted to make a good throw. They wanted to get a hit. They wanted to make a good pitch.

But they didn’t.

It wasn’t due to being lazy or lack of effort. So, why be angry?

Physical errors underscore what we need to work on. Players need reps. They need lots of reps, but positive reps doing things the right way.

When you see your players making physical errors, write those things down. That’s what you need to work on more in practice.

Earning Playing Time

I don’t recommend coaching through fear and intimidation. Balance positivity with negativity. Don’t punish physical errors.

But that doesn’t mean we don’t encourage a competitive environment.

If Billy is more productive than Jimmy at shortstop, then Billy should play more there.

If Franky is a better hitter than Teddy, then Franky should hit higher in the lineup.

If Johnny is a better overall player than Al (I’m running out of names), then Johnny should get more playing time.

Don’t think this “softer” approach is any less competitive. It doesn’t mean everyone plays whatever positions they want. It doesn’t mean that playing time is shared equally regardless of ability, performance, and preparation.

This is simply establishing a more productive approach to teaching and correction. An approach your players are more likely to receive positively and improve.

Expectations, Rules, and Structure

You should still have rules. You should still establish clear expectations for behavior. You should still coach responsibilities and the mental side of the game.

Continue to be firm. Discipline will still be necessary.

But how we communicate matters.

Focus on Fun

Baseball is a game. It’s not life or death. Stop treating it that way.

If you want your players to hate baseball, keep yelling at them and intimidating them.

If you want your players to burn out, keep embarrassing them.

But, one day they will leave your team. Will they love the game more than they did when they arrived? Will they be more knowledgable? What kind of memories will they have of the team? Of you?

These are the things that we impact. And how we impact these young men is influenced by our style of coaching.

You have a choice.

Your Turn

What are your experiences with coaching through fear and intimidation? What approaches do you use instead?

Let me know in the comments below!

We want to keep youth baseball fun. We also want to recognize every player’s contributions and make them feel appreciated. Baseball is a mental game, and it’s important to create ways to keep your team loose, confident, and motivated.

That’s why the Spiders created the Money Chain.

It’s not an original concept. We’ve seen the Turnover Chain. I was ultimately inspired to do something like this after seeing Rogue Baseball do a Player of the Week award for my older boys.

Another solid day on the practice field. Players of the week: @PrestonTenney – Pitcher, @Stilian_B – Defender, @QBrazz5 – Hitter #ROGUE pic.twitter.com/qhkT48cZrB

— Rogue Baseball (@Rogue_Baseball) June 15, 2017

Let’s talk about the goals of the Money Chain and how we handle it, as well as how you could apply this to a similar award for your own team.

What Is the Money Chain?

The Money Chain is a gaudy, gold-looking chain (it may actually be worth about $15) with a big “$” symbol hanging from it. It screams, “LOOK AT ME!” and that’s intentional. We want people to notice it.

The Money Chain is awarded to a player following the final game of the day. It goes to a player who was “money” that day. It could be at the plate, on the mound, in the field, on the bases, it doesn’t matter. It could be for hustle, sportsmanship, or something else entirely.

After the coaches finish our post-game speeches, I whip out the money chain. Everyone knows it’s coming. I explain what the day’s “money” player did and why they deserve it. We then have a presentation ceremony where the player gets down on one knee, and I put the chain around his neck. That player then leads the team in counting us out (“1-2-3 SPIDERS!”).

It’s fun because everyone then sees the player leaving the field with this ridiculous chain. Big smile, lots of pride. That player often then wears the chain to dinner, school, practice, whatever.

The important thing, of course, is that the player needs to take care of the chain. He also needs to bring it for the next day of games, whenever that is. It’s incredibly bad form not to bring it, as we will then not be able to award the next deserving winner.

My goal is to award a different player with the Money Chain after each day of games. I try to award every player the Money Chain once before giving it to anyone a second time. Of course, there can be exceptions if any player had just an insanely good day of games.

Variations of the Money Chain

There are so many things you could do with this.

You could give different awards for hitting, fielding, pitching, and even baserunning. If you give multiple awards, it may be best to do this at the end of a tournament rather than the end of a single day’s games, like we do.

You could also have something that players wear during the game, rather than after. In other words, if a player made an insane catch, hit a homer, struck out the side, or something else, you could have that player put on the chain while in the dugout. Make it a big deal.

Of course, it doesn’t need to be a chain. It could be a silly hat. Or, like Rogue does, it could carry a responsibility with it. There’s a bucket of balls that the player must carry to and away from the field before and after practices and games. It’s actually a job, but one that they don’t mind since it’s a good recognition!

Keep it Fun

As mentioned at the top, the goal of these awards is to keep it fun and recognize players for their good play. They look forward to this. It increases their own competitiveness and they want to win it.

We’ve talked before about how coaches contribute to player burnout. This is a small thing, but it represents a positive culture that the boys really enjoy.

Your Turn

Do you do anything like the Money Chain? What do you do?

Let me know in the comments below!